2nGjyaM0o1rqhFuD65616DjpVfI Juicebox Confession: Regretless

Friday, February 7, 2014

Regretless


Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week, 15 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.




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My prompt this time around was:

In life everyone has regrets, things they've done, things they haven't done. What is your biggest regret, and if you could change things, would you?
It was submitted by:
FBX Adventures (In Parenting)

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In a word: nothing. I made a conscious decision early in my life to live without regrets. To let myself off the hook. Everything I have done has led me to today, and for that I am deeply grateful.

As I am typing this I am surrounded by people who love and believe in me. I am sitting in a house that not only holds most of my history but also my future. I have an amazing husband, one I never even dared to pray for out of fear of seeming greedy. I have a daughter who takes my breath away. I am frequently close to tears at all my life has become.

My life, although one I deeply appreciate, is not perfect. There are moments I wish were not so hard.  But regret? No. As soon as I allow myself to let regret in, I start to doubt myself. I allow my fears and shortcomings to win. Instead, I own my past. I own my actions. I apologize frequently and admit that I am wrong. I, after all, am only human. I cannot hold myself up to impossible standards. I cannot get angry with myself for something that I would easily forgive anyone else for.

I try to live my life in such a way that I do not end up with regrets. I am not perfect; of course I have moments of wishing something hadn’t happened or wishing I hadn’t said something. When this happens I try to see what good will come from the situation. I do not allow my thinking to turn negative or regretful. I move on. I apologize or I walk away. What is done is done, no sense in dwelling.

I cannot change the past, but I can learn from it, and better myself for the future. 


22 comments:

  1. "I never regret anything. Because every little detail of your life is what made you into who you are in the end." -Drew Barrymore

    I like your attitude.....I try to not regret things I've done in my life. I don't view them as mistakes. But if I could go back and do things SLIGHTLY different, but have the same kids, same husband I have now.....I'd probably do it.

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    1. I love that quote! Thank you for reading! XOXO

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  2. I'm afraid that I have regrets. They don't rule my life, but they're there.

    I love your attitude, your ability to just refuse to have them and move on.

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    1. It is easier said than done and I constantly have to reexamine and reevaluate. If I find myself feeling regretful I will force myself to either do something to turn it around or look at it differently. Turn it into an opportunity for growth or change. It can be exhausting but I am dedicated to it. Thank you for reading! XOXO

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  3. My biggest regret is that I threw away my chance at a college education. I partied and screwed up instead of balancing studying and fun. I find it hard telling my kids they need to go to college when I didn't graduate. But, I know it isn't too late and I can still finish if I choose to.

    I don't regret marrying the wrong man the first time around, because at the time, he wasn't wrong and I wouldn't have my kids if I hadn't married him.

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    1. I find that if I feel like I am regretting something, than maybe it is a reminder to be proactive. Fix whatever it is that is making me unhappy. Thank you so much for reading!! XO

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  4. I completely and totally agree!! Whatever decisions we've made brought us to where we are today. We learn from the bad ones and revel in the good ones.

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  5. Kudos to you. Try to keep that attitude through the years and keep learning from those mistakes.

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    1. Thanks! It isn't easy but after a couple decades worth of practice, it starts to get easier. Thank you for reading!! XO

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  6. Living regret-less is a great thing.
    I have a few but try to learn and move forward.

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    1. It is pretty freeing. Challenging but freeing. Thanks for reading!! XO

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  7. I have a few regrets. But even my mistakes got me to where I am now!

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    1. Exactly! That is the foundation of being regret free. How can you regret the things that have led you to today? Thank you for reading!! XO

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  8. As always I love your attitude and courage! ❤
    I once read "you can only regret NOT having done things", and try to live by that.

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    1. Thank you so much. I love that quote, it is so good. Thank you for all your support!! XOXO

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  9. That is so well said. I'd love to say I live my life without regrets, but there are things I wish I could go back and change, And they are big things too, These aren't little character flaws I have like leaving the light on or forgetting to lock the front door, these are things that make me wonder if I'm really as good a person as I once thought myself to be. But we can't change our pasts, we can only learn from them. It doesn't stop me kicking myself though.

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    1. I have done and aid things that I am not proud of. I have acted in a manner that I will never repeat. Instead of regretting those things and carrying that burden with me, I learned, grew and forgave myself. I hope you can as well. Thank you so much for reading!! XOXO

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  10. What a beautiful post. It took me longer than normal to come to a place of peace and appreciation. I'm glad I'm there. Reflection is sometimes hard; but we can only learn from those things, right? Keep on, keeping on!

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    1. Thank you so much. I am so glad you have found your place of peace and appreciation. It is so liberating. Thank you for reading!! XOXO

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  11. I LOVE this post...I totally agree with you on no regrets. Our life may not be how I envisioned it would be when I was younger, but I LOVE my life, LOVE my family, and know every choice I made has brought us here today and I wouldn't change a thing.

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    1. Thank you!! I love your comment.

      Thank you so much for reading!!!

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