I don't mean to slide down this chute of negativity. I try to avoid this place. I try to live my life from a place of gratitude and happiness. I try to listen well and assume nothing. However, I am not perfect. I, like everyone else, am imperfect. My patience seems to be waning when it comes to a few select comments I have been hearing with increasing frequency.
This is my space. My safe little corner of the internet that I should feel free to vent on. That being said, here it goes.
If one more person says any of the following, I may start twitching.
"Oh, you think that is hard/easy/fun, just wait until ___________. You won't think that anymore."
What is wrong with right now? Why do I have to "just wait?" Can't I enjoy this moment? I can't I bask in the glow of today? If I was always living for the future or "just waiting," when, exactly would I live and enjoy it? No mater the intent behind the phrase, a little part of me revolts every time I hear, "Just wait....."
or
"You think one kid is hard, try two (three, four, how many ever)."
No matter how many kids I have, rough days are rough days. 1 or 10, I am allowed to have my feelings. The number of kids I have doesn't disqualify them. I understand that having 4 children is hard. I grew up with 3 siblings. My mom did it mostly on her own. Do not assume that because I am the mother to only one kiddo, I have no idea what your life is like.
or
"When are you having more kids? You don't want yours to be an only, right?"
How do I say this nicely? Mind. Your. Own. Business. For real. You do not know my story. You probably do not know that while you may only see one happy little girl standing in front of me, I have been pregnant 5 times. That is 4 other little souls that belong to me. So, no, we didn't want her to be an only child. I know you didn't mean to, but you inadvertently brought up a painful and sensitive topic.
Everyone has a story. Chances are, we don't know their full story, the details that when combined make up a beautifully complicated person. It is better to not assume. Never assume. I have found, the moment I assume something, is the moment I am wrong.
Today is National Happiness Day. In honor of today I am going to focus on the good in my life. On the things that make me happy. Deeply happy. Soul smiling happy. I am going to let rude and uninformed comments roll of my back. I am going to smile and walk away. I am going to post this and be done with the grumbling.
But, before I do, I may just have to quote Katy of I Want A Dumpster Baby and say, "Every time someone says, "just wait until," a puppy dies. Why do you want puppies to die?"
Stop to consider that people are not only unable to stay in their own business, but can't even keep their noses in the present moment of someone else's business. What the heck are they running from in their own life? Does wine in a box count as a juicebox? Do I have to be happy or can I be moderately less crabby?
ReplyDeleteIt is true. I try to be understanding and compassionate but, dammit, it is hard sometimes. I don't drink so be a dear and drink a juice(wine)box for me!!
DeleteModerately less crabby is a perfectly acceptable goal.
Thanks for reading!